This slim volume is packed with superlative insights.
Junger is able to weave evolutionary psychology, American Indian History,
surviving earthquakes and mine disaster stories, and his own experience as a
war correspondent into a synthesis that seeks to explain why so many of us, not
just returning veterans, feel so disconnected from one another.
We live in a world of social media with many
of us tallying hundreds of “Friends” and “Followers” and yet in actuality we
may be able to count on the fingers of one hand people that we really [maybe]
know we could count on when “it” hits the fan.
If we factor out, “When it hits the fan” we’ve
got to come to grips with the fact that, hell, many of us have never even met
our social media “friends” let alone sat down at a table with them to get to
know them.
Junger weaves a beautiful tale that begins
with the copious accounts of American Frontier settlers who chose to “go
Indian” and walk away from “civilization” and live with the surrounding tribes.
He offers countless examples of returned “captives” who made desperate attempts
to get back to their newly adopted “tribe.”
This is puzzling in light that “civilization”
even at that time offered so many more conveniences and assurances and yet there
was something about this tribal set-up that was deeply and more viscerally
appealing.
He offers compelling and thought-provoking
evidence that crime, suicide, depression, and so many other negative civilized
social factors plunge in the wake of extreme hardship: earthquakes, floods, war
zones and the like. [If this surprises you, it should be a happy surprise, and
he offers all the documentation you could want in the endnotes to run down his sources.]
He observes, just as Nassim Nicholas Taleb has
in the past, that there is a flip-side to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and
that could very well be called Post Traumatic Growth. The human body responds
to challenges and stressors most often in positive ways, after all that is what
exercise is, sports training, intense study sessions that leave one feeling
weak and drained but stronger and better for the effort in the aftermath of the
work.
Junger expands this “exercise is good for you”
and “study is good for you” dictum to include group struggle, group inter-reliant
community is also good for us. And in many senses it might be more vital than physical
training and mental study.
Junger offers invigorating evidence that the
copious luxuries that we enjoy in the First World may be the very things that
lead to a sort of disconnected ennui that keeps us feeling a bit adrift and unconnected,
unmoored despite the ability to reach out and “socialize” as never before. We
may have bonded to our “stuffed animals” and to not to real life. [If that
metaphor is lost, read the book for a big “Aha!” moment.]
On the personal side, there’s not a damn thing
inside the book that did not resonate with me. My own anecdotal evidence points
to deeper bonds or experience with other humans that I have struggled with and engaged
in an activity that was an active challenging “doing” of some sort as opposed
to yet another round of passively consuming entertainment or noshing on another
restaurant meal. I’ve always found that folks who have jumped off a cliff with
me [literal or metaphorical] or worked alongside the grill with me were cleaved
a bit tighter to my heart.
These doings can be of the physical variety, mental,
or emotional variety. Junger tells us that those we have sweated alongside
with, worked through a challenge with, withstood embarrassment with, risked
with build and engage the human spirit in ways that simple living on cruise
control cannot.
There is a science-based, articulate life-affirming
message for building a better you amongst a like-minded self-chosen tribe in these
pages. A tribe that is immune or at least indifferent to the trivia of the
“super-tribe” that persists in telling us that this or that world “leader” or
disposable “pop figure” or “pop artifact” holds any deep value to our lives.
Deep personal meaning and authentic connection
with tribe-members cannot be forged in a sea of trivia or a “safety-helmet”
world of non-chance taking. It must be actively engaged, actively pursued,
whole-heartedly embraced. And the good news, Junger’s book shows us that the “striving
for the tribe” can be enjoyed by all: men, women, and children, no matter age
or “ability.”
I fear this review may have done short-shrift
to the import or the impact of this book, and if I have rendered this a “Doesn’t
sound too interesting to me” judgment, that is all on me and not Mr. Junger.
This is a vital important work. I yearn for
tribal interaction and this articulate volume is an interesting sign post for
some form of walking away from certain aspects of the “civilized” world and
communing with like-minded tribe members who know that the struggle (large and
small) is where the bonds are forged, life is lived, and eyes are opened.
If you read this book and are similarly
struck, welcome to the tribe! Let’s grab this thing called life and have an
adventure!
